When Xavier and I tell friends, family and coworkers that we’re engaged, the first question we hear is, “Have you set a date?” Even now that we’ve come down a bit from Cloud Nine and discussed dates, budget and location, we still don’t have a date.
We just bought our first house, so we’ve decided on a 2ish year engagement to avoid financial stress. I mean, we dated for 6 years before getting engaged, what’s another 2? That could absolutely change, but that’s my story for now, and I’m stickin’ to it!
Since we have no idea when we’ll be married, I’ve been asking myself, is it too soon to dress shop? I know many brides start shopping around the year mark, but is there a period of time when it’s too soon? I went shopping today for the first time, and this is how I feel about all of it.
The dress may not fit later
Considering I still fit into my high school prom dress from 2008, I doubt my weight/size/shape will change that dramatically in the next two years. I mean, knock on wood. But then I had the thought (an even bigger knock-on-wood), what if I became pregnant in the next two years? I know I just jinxed myself, but it’s a valid thought.
While I don’t think I’ll gain weight, it’s very possible I could lose. I started going to the gym in July, and already I can tell a difference in my body. Right now I’m not loving strapless dresses, but maybe I will change my mind if I continue to improve my fitness. I tried on a beautiful lace dress with a sweetheart neckline and empire waist. It was gorgeous, but I wasn’t feeling super confident in it, so I said no thank you. I’m definitely bookmarking it though, because in a year my body could be a little different, you never know.
What I want might change
This is probably my biggest hangup because I don’t have a “dream dress” that I’ve been envisioning, so what I like today may not be what I like tomorrow. I used to see myself in a strapless sweetheart ball gowns, but all of the dresses I’ve been drawn to lately have lace straps or sleeves. I tried on a lace dress with a keyhole back, a style that is all over Pinterest right now, and it was lovely, but trends change. Again, bookmarking and moving on!
I read an article that suggested a venue may change my dress choice. You may not want a heavy, layered ball gown if you plan to get married on the beach in Florida. Or, if you’re having a garden wedding you may want something more romantic to fit the vibe. Right now I don’t know if I’ll have an indoor or an outdoor wedding!
Where am I going to put it?
Closet space in our house is limited, and I don’t want to put the dress anywhere Xavier will see it, so I’ll have to find a place to keep it tucked away.
I don’t want to try on too many dresses
I’ve see enough Say Yes to the Dress that I know I shouldn’t try on too many dresses. It’s a shame to see a woman talk herself out of an amazing dress because she’s not committed to buying one or she’s second guessing herself. Sometimes I’ll shop online for too long, and by the end of it everything has blurred together and I can’t really remember what I liked and what I didn’t like.
So when it comes down to it…
Do I think it’s a bad idea to start shopping at this point even though I’m 2+ years away from getting married? Nahhh. I definitely need to get my toes wet. I have to figure out what materials I like, what silhouettes I’m interested in and what shapes flatter my body, and for me trying things on and seeing them in person is going to help me the most. I’m a very practical person, so I’m taking very close notes on what I like and do not like about each dress and which dresses I would like to revisit.
If I happen to find “the one”… well, I’ll just have to cross that road when/if I come to it.